tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16103538.post3315825588446526248..comments2023-06-22T06:46:19.888-07:00Comments on Just another disenfranchised father: IncoherenceJohn Doehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05326982429461344063noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16103538.post-68720642606786487462007-12-21T07:46:00.000-08:002007-12-21T07:46:00.000-08:00I don't know what the word is ... but, I know what...I don't know what the word is ... but, I know what it feels like. I was kept away from my daughter for nearly a year, and, I can't put it into words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16103538.post-60848452263143833192007-12-19T20:49:00.000-08:002007-12-19T20:49:00.000-08:00I would feel terrible.I would feel terrible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16103538.post-89939025934863652602007-12-18T22:22:00.000-08:002007-12-18T22:22:00.000-08:00I know the feeling. The bitter, helpless rage at ...I know the feeling. The bitter, helpless rage at being denied simply for being a man. I know the pain and the loss you feel, I share that pain myself, although for me it's only months between visits, not years.<BR/><BR/>I know what it's like to realize you are missing the growing up years of your children, the years that are universally regarded as the most memorable. The most important.<BR/><BR/>I know what it's like to find cold comfort in the "don't worry, they'll eventually come around" responses. I want to kick them in the teeth for saying it too. Unfortunately, it's the best anyone can hope for.<BR/><BR/>I share your fear that the relationship will never heal. That I will never truly maintain that bond I have with my kids. That we will lose touch, forever.<BR/><BR/>I understand.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16103538.post-3101729756335878172007-12-18T16:25:00.000-08:002007-12-18T16:25:00.000-08:00I'm sorry, brother. I understand how you're feeli...I'm sorry, brother. I understand how you're feeling, even though my situation is very different.<BR/><BR/>Patience. all things in time. you've been stymied, nay, fucked by the legal system... patience.<BR/><BR/>One day your son will be a man, and will be able to share your sense of loss over this time - this time that your ex has squandered.<BR/><BR/>there is nothing you can do to change things. accepting them and making the best of them is all you're left with...<BR/><BR/>that and the knowledge that when he's able to see the lunacy of his mother, that he will understand your pain, and value your sacrifice.<BR/><BR/>Godspeed.OneFallerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10665765080749976548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16103538.post-15365127202190567782007-12-18T14:35:00.000-08:002007-12-18T14:35:00.000-08:00I would be heartbroken as you are. But, I dont kn...I would be heartbroken as you are. But, I dont know what else to say as I know how that feels to use all of your energy to just ... simply... be "normal". ...<BR/><BR/>im at a loss for words, sorry. I want to say more.khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18007248035351360319noreply@blogger.com