Comments on Just another disenfranchised father: On Victimhood

Portraying yourself as a victim has power in this ...

2007-12-22T18:53:00.000-08:00

Portraying yourself as a victim has power in this society. It is in a persons vested self-interest to always be the "victim" even when there really hasn't been anything done wrong. I will note DV laws as one indicator of this "cult of victim hood" if you will.

A lot of victimhood is really denial of responsibility in my view. Husband beats you? Thats a sad story, however it is your responsibility to get yourself out of that situation if you don't want it to happen again. Don't stick around and complain about how bad it is.

I have been the victim of several injustices, however you don't hear me crying about it. I pick myself up and dust myself off, and move on all the while trying to DO something about it.

-Strength and Honor-

The child is always the victim in the process of p...

2007-12-21T15:15:00.000-08:00

The child is always the victim in the process of parental alienation. The child will grow up recognizing the alienating parent's actions as what is right, and will emulate as much as possible. Later, there's two scenarios- the child will either see the truth and hate himself for putting his alienated parent through such anguish, or the child will become just like the alienating parent...living in denial. I think the first scenario is much more common. It doesn't help to hear that now, when you are so far away from the future. But as long as you are there for him when reality comes crashing down, you will have the opportunity to play the hero in a very real and genuine way.