Friday, October 05, 2007

Damn them all

In a longish article about child support collections, I find this impressively long list of things they can do to you in New Hampshire if you don't pay:
"...the agency can move in and deduct what you owe from your paycheck, your tax return or your retirement benefits. Same goes for any money you’re collecting from unemployment, worker’s comp or insurance settlements. And any potential jackpots from those casinos we’re all waiting to hear about — “We’re already looking at that,” says DOR spokesman Robert Bliss. If you don’t pay up, the DOR can put a lien on your property, revoke your passport, driver’s license and any other professional license granted by the state. If none of that works, it can put you on its wanted posters, have you arrested and fined up to $10,000."
The people responsible for this are positively wetting themselves over their powers. You can see the toothy smiles in between the print, while they polish up their jackboots and clean their nightsticks. One of them thinks "aggressive child support enforcement has even had a hand in lowering the divorce rate.". Huh? And, she says, "We’re proud to be a contributor to healthy families,". It's not just me, but that is a thoroughly perverse line of thinking, is it not? You'll bully us into healthy families? Control through intimidation, "Doublethink" anyone?

After reading that list of methods of pressing the non-custodial parents face into the pavement, I scoured the rest of the article, looking for any word on what might be done to bring to book the custodial parent who messes with visitation, or even recognizing their existence. I could almost hear the crickets chirping. God damn those people.

I mean it. Sometimes I think we need some good old-fashioned ideas of Heaven and Hell these days. Damn them all.


Anonymous said...

How ironic that you would post this, this week! I received a letter from Child Support Enforcement this week stating that some laws had changed, and since I owe more than $2,500 in back child support, my passport has been revoked. I never use it anyway...but I also haven't missed a payment since I went back to work after my daughter was born. hmf...

Anonymous said...

In my experience here in Cook County Illinois, there is only only lip service given to fathers rights and visitation. Under the watchful eye of the court appointed psychologist, guardian ad litem, and many trips to court, I have had only seven one hour supervised visits in fifteen months.

Supervised visitation was ordered due to the children's hostile attitude toward me. No substantiated reports of abuse of any sort exist and I stayed in the house for 10 months and left by agreed order. And the only reason I agreed to leave was because the GAL and Judge said I would get better visitation.

On each visit, the children's stories of abuse get worse and worse. No investigation or reporting on the validity of the charges made by the children has been made. It seems if they ignore it, I will just go away.

Although neither the court appointed psychologist or GAL will use the word 'alienation' or recognize the actual dynamic here, both have recommended sole custody to be given to my wife because of my wife's inability to communicate in a civil manner and the falsehoods my children believe.

Doug M.

Anonymous said...

I am the product of a divorce. My mother and father were divorced when I was about ten years old and except for a few times I never saw my father again. This, of course, was due to how the divorce courts work: my father was made to pay child support, but my mother was not made to allow visitation; my mother was aloud to make all the false abuse allegations she wanted, but my father was never assumed innocent until proven guilty; etc.

As an adult I got to talk with my father on the phone a few times just before he died. One thing was obvious: My father was not the monster my mother had led all of us to believe. He was just a regular guy with all the same short suite and long suite we all have.

What my mother didn’t count on and the courts didn’t care to realize is that the truth always comes out eventually. Once I matured and saw that there were two sides to the story I lost a lot of respect for the courts and my mother. By destroying my relationship with my father my mother actually destroyed my relationship with her.

The lies and vengefulness may buy wives a temporary victory, but it won’t last. They are only hurting themselves. In the end, everyone gets the short end of the divorce stick except the courts who profit from the industry and the feminists who hate anything male.

Anonymous said...

JD, I just read one of your comments on Glenn's site, and decided to check yours out. I thought I'd go ahead and disclose something that's been on my mind lately, and since you seem open to comments here... My father wanted a better life for his 6 kids but his infidelity and my mothers drinking created all sorts of problems. At a young age I felt hate for my father and blamed him soley, and could never understand why my mother wouldn't divorce him. She stayed, not because of financial dependence or fears of being alone or any of those reasons. She stayed - and he stayed - because they did hold some belief in their vows to one another, didn't want the kids to be products of divorce, and my mum wanted to make sure we had our dad no matter what. What I used to "hate" my parents for, I later grew to admire them for. He died when I was 16. He may have been mean sometimes with some really distorted ideas about being a dad, but he had some really good ones, too. Without my dad, I would have never canoed, camped, gone boating or hiking,took many trips out west to the reservations, rode motorcycles,and seen and experienced all the things that eventually became a big part of my adult life with my husband. My mum is smart enough to know my father has a strong influence in that, and she instilled in me a sense of committment and persistence because she never gave up. My mum knew the system would have destroyed our family more than the problems we shared. I feel very grievious for the men who are torn by vindictive, unforgiving women who have lost site in the worth of those men they once loved, especially their worth to the children.
Signed: Delaney